Sunday, July 20, 2008

Roo's Way of Coping

Tuesday 15 July 2008

At the hospital, outside the ICU...

Roo:  Mommy, I want to see lola please!

Mommy:  Roo, I'm sorry but you can't.  Lola is very sick.  

Roo (shouting, in a tantrum):  I want to see lola!  I want to sing for lola!

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Wednesday 16 July 2008

Lola passed away about 7am.  In spite of everything, because I promised him earlier, I brought Roo to the beach, and we stayed there while everybody else was making arrangements for the burial.  At one point, Roo asked...

Mommy, where's lola?

Lola's sleeping anak.  We won't see her anymore till Jesus comes.

Daddy E and Roo stayed at home during the funeral and burial services, then came to the memorial park right after.  As soon as Roo saw Lolo's very, very sad face, he bawled out loud and started crying so hard we didn't know how to comfort him!  

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Thursday 17 July 2008

In the morning while we were cuddling...

Roo:  Mommy, did lola die?

Mommy (choking back tears):  Yes, anak.  Lola died.

Roo:  Why, mommy?

Mommy:  She was very sick anak.

Roo:  Why, mommy? Did bad people hurt her?

Mommy:  No, anak. Nobody hurt lola.  She just died.  We don't know why she died.

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Friday 18 July 2008

Right after he woke up...

Roo (with tears in his eyes):  Mommy, when I'm big, will you die also like lola, then I won't have a mommy anymore also?

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Saturday 19 July 2008

Roo:  Daddy, let's go home to Thailand.  I like it better in Thailand!

4 comments:

Unknown said...

this is just all so poignantly sad..the grief of a child..ahay sakit dughan ko a.

escape said...

that's so sweet of roo. and i really like that nick name.

Jenny said...

He is so young to be going through this! I just can't imagine.

zherwin said...

i agree, seeing a grieving child is just too much because you know that it's so pure. he'll be okay, he'll be okay.